{"id":1110,"date":"2013-02-12T08:30:50","date_gmt":"2013-02-12T15:30:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/arkansashomeschool.org\/?p=1110"},"modified":"2013-02-08T10:56:33","modified_gmt":"2013-02-08T17:56:33","slug":"10-secrets-to-surviving-the-long-haul-of-homeschooling","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/arkansashomeschool.org\/index.php\/2013\/02\/12\/10-secrets-to-surviving-the-long-haul-of-homeschooling\/","title":{"rendered":"10 Secrets to Surviving the Long Haul of Homeschooling"},"content":{"rendered":"

Published with Permission
\nby Denise Mira
\nwww<\/em><\/strong><\/a>.<\/em><\/strong><\/a>denisemira<\/em><\/strong><\/a>.<\/em><\/strong><\/a>com<\/em><\/strong><\/a>\/<\/em><\/strong><\/a>blog<\/em><\/strong><\/a>
\nwww<\/a>.<\/a>TOSMagazine<\/a>.<\/a>com<\/a><\/p>\n

It\u2019s February. The leftover frozen Christmas cookies have been consumed, the unwanted gifts have (finally!) been exchanged, that protracted euphoric sense of holiday freedom lingering through December and January has ended, and all your excuses for \u201cnot doing normal school\u201d have run dry. (No,Mom, Super Bowl Sunday isn\u2019t considered a long weekend!)<\/p>\n

It\u2019s that<\/em> time of year on the school calendar. You\u2019re \u201cin between\u201d in the dead of winter\u2014sort of like the Laura Ingalls Wilder family in the late 1800s, rolling across the desolate, flat, blustery plains of the Midwest in their rustic covered wagon, with no . . . end . . . in . . . sight. And, most definitely, no 7-Elevens to stop at for a Big Gulp!<\/p>\n

The remaining stretch of terrain lying before you can appear particularly daunting this time of year. I know, because I\u2019ve been there. Our \u201cwagon\u201d was packed with five busy boys and led by two public school-educated, first-generation, homeschooling pioneer parents: hubby and me, who were intent on changing the world\u2014but without much practical preparation.<\/p>\n

As you know, beginning<\/em> is always more exciting than continuing.<\/em> That\u2019s why so many people give up in the middle. But if we\u2019ll persist, it\u2019s amazing how much treasure is hidden along the way. Here are ten secrets I\u2019ve unearthed as I\u2019ve journeyed for thirty-one years in marriage and over twenty years in home education. If you\u2019ll take them to heart, these nuggets of gold are guaranteed to propel you forward with momentum!<\/p>\n

1. Capture afresh your initial revelation about home education.<\/em> I\u2019m doing what I\u2019m doing today because of a revelation, and I imagine you are too. It may have come through observation of a successful homeschooling family, academic study, or an online news story, but the result was what we would call an \u201caha!\u201d moment. This unfolding of new information, this striking disclosure, opened our eyes to see something we didn\u2019t even know existed and brought a revolution to our homes. Let it inspire and empower you once again!<\/p>\n

2. Remember your vision.<\/em> Proverbs 28:19 shoots straight on this one: \u201cWhere there is no vision, the people perish<\/em>.\u201d <\/em>When we forget why<\/em> we\u2019re doing what<\/em> we\u2019re doing, we falter. Time and again, I remind myself of the dream God put in my heart: to raise extraordinary young men who will have an impact in the earth. I can\u2019t imagine a more ideal setting for training my sons in every facet of life than at home with Mom and Dad and their brothers. However, the \u201cideal\u201d of which we dream is oft-times challenged by the \u201creal\u201d in which we live. Which leads me to my next secret.<\/p>\n

3. Beware of \u201cthe dailies\u201d!<\/em> In the 24\/7 grind of life at home, the \u201cdailies\u201d can set in to bog us down and blur our vision.<\/em> You know well the tedium of everyday life. It\u2019s all that stuff that has to be done: toddlers to chase, teens to embrace, papers to correct, meals to make, bills to juggle, friends to call, clutter to straighten, diapers to change . . . it never ends. Enduring the daily slog can, at times, feel like the greatest test. We must refuse to allow the mundane to overshadow the truly important issues of our lives. Don\u2019t be found drowning in the dailies.<\/p>\n

4. Hold on to your confidence!<\/em> Confidence is powerful. The Bible encourages it, and Hebrews 10:35 reminds us that \u201cit will be richly rewarded\u201d. <\/em>When our confidence is rocked, our resolve is substantially weakened. We begin to second-guess our parenting decisions and we become double-minded about our ability to carry out our mission to home school. Be like a dog with a bone, and don\u2019t let go of your confidence!<\/p>\n

5. Remember, we \u201clive by faith\u201d (Hebrews <\/em>10:38<\/em>)!\u00a0 <\/em>As believers in a living God, let\u2019s not separate our \u201cSunday faith\u201d from our Monday mission as moms and dads! By faith,<\/em> I encourage myself daily. By faith,<\/em> I see my vision for my sons\u2019 futures unfolding before me. If we lean only upon our natural perceptions as we parent and home educate, we can be misled and quickly become discouraged. Many, many times, I must lift my gaze to see beyond<\/em> what my five senses are telling me. Faith enables me to press on. Which brings me to my next secret . . .<\/p>\n

6. Learn to persevere.<\/em> In our high-speed, fast-food, microwave society, we want it now!<\/em> We have to fight our human tendency to give up too quickly. Perseverance is defined as \u201csteadfastness in doing something, despite difficulty or delay in achieving success.\u201d1<\/sup> It\u2019s not a concept that initially summons happy thoughts, but James 1:4 promises that if we allow perseverance to \u201cfinish its work\u201d<\/em> in us, we\u2019ll become mature and complete, \u201clacking nothing.\u201d<\/em> Perseverance isn\u2019t something that comes naturally to most of us; it\u2019s more like a muscle we must develop with consistent use.<\/p>\n

7. Pray, pray, and pray!<\/em> As I reflect upon my twenty-seven years of mothering, the majority of my days have begun in the quiet of the early morning hours on my knees, imploring God for His grace, mercy, and wisdom. I\u2019m desperate for His help. I picture myself in prayer, making a divine exchange. Trading my better ideas, my human reasoning, my secular standards, my friends\u2019 advice, for a heavenly anointing that enables me to succeed. Prayer is a strategy I know I can trust completely. (See James 5:16b.)<\/p>\n

8. Count it all joy (James 1:2)!<\/em> As homeschooling families, each day presents us with frequent irritations: spilled juice, dawdling students, rolling pencils, bickering siblings, lost books, and continual interruptions. We usually have a split second to decide whether to grumble or rejoice. Choose joy!<\/em> Decide to be lighthearted about your light and momentary afflictions (2 Corinthians 4:17), and you will sense God\u2019s strength filling your heart (Nehemiah 8:10).<\/p>\n

9. Sing! <\/em>Do you have a song in your heart? I\u2019m not a gifted vocalist (and all my boys said \u201cAmen!\u201d), but as a homemaker I\u2019ve found myself singing my way through my blessings and my battles these past three decades. James 5:13 asks, \u201cIs any merry? let him sing psalms.\u201d<\/em> The book of Psalms is literally a songbook filled with beautiful words of praise to God. I believe singing God\u2019s Word reinforces the Truth and effectively drives away the dark cloud that wants to hang over our homes and lives. That\u2019s why \u201cI will sing unto the Lord as long as I live: I will sing praise to my God while I have my being\u201d (Psalm 104:33).<\/em><\/p>\n

10. Be the tortoise, not the hare.<\/em> As full-time parents and home educators, we have to think \u201cmarathon\u201d not \u201csprint.\u201d A long-distance runner who fails to pace himself mentally and physically runs real fast at the beginning and fizzles out somewhere in the middle.<\/p>\n

I want you to make it to the finish line, not simply surviving<\/em> the trip but thriving<\/em> along the way. I believe these ten timeless secrets will equip you well for the road ahead. \u201cAnd let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not\u201d (Galatians 6:9). <\/em>Stay the course!<\/p>\n

Endnote:<\/p>\n

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Denise Mira, author of <\/em>No Ordinary Child: Unlocking the Leader Within Your Child,<\/strong> has been married to Gregory for thirty-one years. They are the parents of five sons. Denise has traveled extensively, both nationally and internationally, inspiring change a<\/em>s s<\/em>he shares the message God has given her for families. She would love to have you visit her blog at <\/strong><\/em>www<\/em><\/strong><\/a>.<\/em><\/strong><\/a>denisemira<\/em><\/strong><\/a>.<\/em><\/strong><\/a>com<\/em><\/strong><\/a>\/<\/em><\/strong><\/a>blog<\/em><\/strong><\/a>,<\/em><\/strong> <\/em>and she can be reached at <\/em>contact<\/em><\/strong><\/a>@<\/em><\/strong><\/a>denisemira<\/em><\/strong><\/a>.<\/em><\/strong><\/a>com<\/em><\/strong><\/a>. Find her on <\/em>Facebook<\/em><\/strong><\/a> and follow her on <\/em>Twitter<\/em><\/strong><\/a>!<\/em><\/p>\n

Copyright 2012, used with permission. All rights reserved by author. Originally appeared in the February 2012 issue of The Old Schoolhouse\u00ae Magazine<\/em>, the family education magazine. Read the magazine free atwww<\/a>.<\/a>TOSMagazine<\/a>.<\/a>com<\/a>\u00a0 or read it on the go and download the free TOS<\/a>apps<\/a> to read the magazine on your Kindle Fire or Apple or Android devices.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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