How teens, parents struggle to share social media

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Heather Kelly, CNN

By Heather Kelly, CNN

updated 10:04 PM EDT, Fri August 30, 2013

(CNN) — Carly and her mom are friends on Facebook, but that doesn’t mean they share everything.

The 17-year-old from Marin County, California, has refined her Facebook privacy settings so that her mother can’t see all the posts that fill her Timeline. Her father, meanwhile, never checks the social network.

“Right now, my mom can only see things that I post. She can’t see anything I’m tagged in or anything that my friends say to me on my profile,” said Carly, a high school senior who asked to be identified only by her first name. “She doesn’t know that, though. I’m like, 80% sure that every other teenager has done that too.”

With teenagers and their parents (grandparents, even) increasingly active on social networks, both generations are joined in a delicate dance over privacy, safety and freedom of expression online.

Interviews with a handful of teens and adults suggest that some teens seek out corners of social media where they can communicate with their friends and peers away from the watchful eye, or embarrassing comments, of their parents.

Facebook is the most commonly used social network for both parents and teen-agers, although many teens increasingly are elsewhere.

Parents, meanwhile, are grappling with how to monitor their kids’ online activity and keep them safe without being stifling or intrusive. And both are seeking ways to coexist peacefully on the few social networks they do share.

Reputation is everything

Today’s teenagers are social media natives. They’ve grown up putting their personal information online and are comfortable sharing photos and videos of themselves, updating relationship statuses and checking into locations.

What they don’t share their parents’ level of concern about privacy and worries about companies or the government abusing their data. According to a recent study by the Pew Internet and American Life Project, only 9% of teens reported being “very concerned” about third parties accessing their data.

That doesn’t mean they’re reckless with their personal information, according to Pew research. Most teens exert careful control over what information is seen by whom, but more because they are acutely aware of how each nugget of posted information, even the number of likes it can get, shapes how they are perceived by peers.

I really try to not have any pictures of me from any parties or any captions/comments with swear words …

Carly, age 17

Pew found that teens have developed a variety of ways to control their privacy. They are comfortable navigating Facebook’s notoriously complicated privacy settings, and only 14% have public-facing Facebook profiles. They also edit what appears on their profile, deleting posts, comments and unwanted tags.

For teens looking to hide social-media activity from adults, elaborate privacy settings can sometimes be unnecessary. Fifty-eight percent of teens said they posted updates that were inside jokes or coded messages that only certain friends would understand.

Seeking out new online homes

Many teens are learning how to compartmentalize the different parts of their lives online. Facebook is the most popular site for both teens and parents, according to Pew, but teens reported “waning enthusiasm” in the site in Pew focus groups. They cited the colonization of the site by adults and excessive amounts of “drama.”

Some teens use Facebook for public posts but message each other on lesser-known social platforms that their parents aren’t aware of or haven’t signed up for.

Many teens are also on Twitter, Instagram, Tumblr, Vine and Pinterest — sites where they report feeling less social pressure and more freedom to express themselves. Twitter has seen rapid growth among young users, while Vine, with its looping six-second videos, is a creative form of messaging for a visually oriented generation.

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